In the previous section, we explored another reason that brings tears to our eyes—the despair that arises when every effort fails to yield success. When all attempts end in failure, crying becomes the only solace left. It lightens the burden of our hearts to some extent. Failures can occur in any sphere—be it love, building meaningful relationships, or achieving a desired position or job.
Let us focus on failure, irrespective of its domain, because the causes of failure are often universal across different fields. The primary cause of failure, which stirs anger and frustration within us, is our tendency to pin hopes on the outcome rather than immersing ourselves in the action itself. When our expectations go unmet, we either blame ourselves or others. If we take responsibility, it can motivate us toward future success. However, if we place the blame on circumstances or others, it fosters negativity within us. This negativity diminishes our ability to give our best in future endeavors, further reducing the likelihood of success.
Understanding Failure in Love and Relationships
Let us delve into the reasons behind failure in love, relationships, or friendships. Remember this universal truth: within every cause of failure lies a solution, but we fail to see it because we approach the cause with a negative mindset. Friends, if you struggle to control your own thoughts and emotions, why attempt to control someone else’s?
No one can truly make another person happy because happiness is an internal state. Consider a situation where someone harbors negativity or resentment toward you. Even if you make efforts to please them, they may only find temporary joy or, worse, point out flaws in your actions, leaving you disheartened. Yet, this disappointment is misplaced, as you were already aware of their mindset.
In such cases, you should continue acting without attachment to the outcome. When the other person observes your consistent, selfless efforts, they may eventually begin to shift their perspective. It is also possible they may intensify their efforts to hurt you further. However, knowing their disposition, your resolve should remain unaffected, and you should not waver from your path.
If you find that your efforts consistently lead to negative emotions within you, it is better to stop those actions altogether. Persistent negativity can take root in your heart, worsening the situation. Relationships already strained by negativity on one side will only deteriorate further if you, too, succumb to negative emotions. Maintaining positivity, even in the absence of action, can influence the other person.
Both spirituality and modern science affirm that our bodies constantly emit vibrations. Positive vibrations can significantly impact others, fostering transformation. Strive to remain positive, with or without action, and success will undoubtedly follow.
Failure in Education, Employment, or Business
Now, let us explore why people face repeated failures in education, competitive exams, employment, or business. What is the root cause?
If someone asks you why you have failed, what will your response be? If you say, “I tried everything possible, yet I failed,” it implies that future attempts may also lead to failure. Why? Because you have set limits on your efforts. If your “every possible attempt” falls short of what is required, then it is evident that greater effort is necessary. Never impose limits on your endeavors.
If you say, “I made considerable effort but couldn’t succeed,” it suggests you recognize, deep within, that more effort was needed. This acknowledgment reflects a positive mindset that can pave the way for future success.
On the other hand, if you blame external factors or circumstances for your failure, your chances of future success are almost zero. The circumstances of yesterday may repeat in some form tomorrow, or new challenges may arise. Blaming external factors only ensures a continuation of failure. The key to success lies in introspection—seeking faults within oneself and rectifying them.
Overcoming Failure Through Self-Realization
Success begins when we let go of expectations tied to outcomes and focus solely on our efforts. Whether in love, relationships, education, or career, the principle remains the same: detach from the fruit of action and immerse yourself fully in the action itself. Accept responsibility for your shortcomings, persevere with positivity, and allow your inner strength to lead you toward fulfillment.
Failure is not the end; it is merely a teacher guiding you to refine your efforts. When your heart is steadfast, your resolve unwavering, and your actions free from attachment, success ceases to be a distant goal and becomes a natural outcome.
