Let us now reflect on a practical aspect of life. When memories of the past resurface, they often bring tears to our eyes. These memories may be from decades ago, or they may stem from events as recent as a year, a month, or even a day ago. But why do we weep when these recollections flood our minds? Why does this happen?
Life is, after all, a tapestry of the past, intertwined with the unrelenting pace of the present. When we pause to gauge the speed at which life moves, projecting its trajectory into the future, tears become an almost natural response. Everyone harbors dreams and aspirations. When these dreams remain unfulfilled, or when they must be sacrificed for family or others, it leaves an indelible mark. Some experience heartbreak; others find their worth unacknowledged even by their own kin. Despite relentless effort, success may elude many. For some, health issues or the passage of time weigh heavily, while others grapple with challenges posed by their circumstances, which seem to defy their deepest desires. Worse still, some are let down not by society but by those they call their own.
A common thread runs through all these experiences: a preoccupation with either the past or the future. And amidst this turmoil, the present moment is often forgotten. Whatever has passed cannot return, and the future is shrouded in uncertainty. The global crisis brought about by a sudden illness is a stark example. This unforeseen event has brought the world to a standstill, something no one could have fathomed even in their wildest dreams. The breath you are drawing at this very moment is the present; the next breath belongs to the future. Who can guarantee that the next breath will come? Similarly, every next step is uncertain.
We often consider a day or a night as the present, yet even these are uncertain until the next breath. Planning for the future and taking steps today toward that goal is positive and necessary. However, whether those plans materialize is not within our control. Therefore, one must act with diligence and leave the outcome to the future, savoring today with as much joy as possible. Do not let the worry of the future tarnish the beauty of the present.
There is another reason for our sorrow: ego. When the ego is bruised, the inner self writhes in agony. In moments when we cannot offer an appropriate response to perceived slights, the heart broods. This inability to react sparks an inner rebellion. Over time, this rebellion simmers, but a lingering disquiet remains. We may not shed tears in such moments but instead feel anger at ourselves for being powerless. Tears flow when we lose all hope of ever asserting ourselves. In solitude, these suppressed emotions surface, and we sob quietly.
You might wonder, should we strive to be devoid of ego entirely? The answer lies in understanding that this “ego” is not the true self; it is an illusion created by the mind—a false belief in the need for validation. If others respect you, it is well and good; if not, that too is acceptable. When you possess unwavering self-belief, when you truly know yourself and your path, why would you need anyone’s approval? If you are right, you are right—whether others acknowledge it or not.
However, when confidence falters, we seek external validation, and it is this need that gives rise to the ego. The ego then becomes vulnerable, reacting strongly to criticism or rejection. Yet, the great inventors and pioneers of the world did not rely on others’ approval for their groundbreaking ideas. Initially ridiculed, they persevered with unshakeable confidence, and the world eventually came to embrace their vision. While daily life may not involve revolutionary discoveries, it is no less significant, for every day presents new challenges.
Learn to find contentment within yourself and your work. No one else can bring you lasting happiness. You do not need external support; what you need is a steadfast connection with your inner self. Stop listening to the whims of the mind and attune yourself to the voice of your soul, which has been with you from the beginning and will remain until the end.
Consider another perspective: when your efforts for a loved one go unappreciated, it can cause pain. Interestingly, the same effort for a stranger rarely leads to sorrow, for expectations in such cases are minimal. Helping a stranger brings an intrinsic joy, and any gratitude from them doubles that happiness. If no acknowledgment comes, the inner satisfaction of having done good remains. Yet, this does not hold for our own kin. You may argue that daily contributions to loved ones go unnoticed, and instead of appreciation, criticism abounds. Such feelings are natural, but they are also misplaced. Even in these instances, your actions should arise from joy, free from expectation.
If your efforts bring unhappiness instead of fulfillment, it is better to let go of those endeavors. Recall the principle of the Law of Motion: actions that cause pain will perpetuate that pain. Therefore, engage only in acts that bring you joy and foster positivity within your mind.
In this ever-changing life, anchor yourself in self-awareness. Cultivate joy in your actions, expect nothing, and live with the conviction that your true strength lies within. Surrender your struggles to the timeless wisdom of your soul, for it alone will guide you through every challenge with grace and peace.
